Comments on: Zara’s ?? (Mama – Paternal Grand mother)

By: Twin

Twin — Tue, 25 Jul 2006 12:12:00 +0000

My MIL is the same .. sometimes I can’t stand it. The fact that she doesn’t take care and she’s got so much comment really bothers me. And I’m glad she didn’t choose to take care of my kids becos if she does I think they won’t be as independant as now. 🙂

By: Zara's Mama

Zara's Mama — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 23:00:00 +0000

Allyfeel,
I wouldn’t want to influence Zara or make her dislike MIL, so I’ll have to help to say some good things about MIL. But I was really grateful that she was willing to come and help. That’s my way of saying Thank You I guess. 😛

Michelle,
Haha.. you can copy and paste this post then if our MILs are the same.

Rachel,
MIL especially likes to make comparisons.. Own mother can at least get influenced by us. 😛
My MIL also knows I won’t follow her method, so now, she too leave me alone although she will still nag once a while.

Geetha,
Yes, I think MIL’s beginning to see that too. Kids are different compared to her times.
It’s tough I know if the main caregivers are the MILs and then you try to impose your rule or method on them. So in a way I’m lucky.

Helen,
You are going to be a MIL one day also hor? Maybe in 5years to 10years time?? Be a MIL that rocks huh?

Sabrina,
Aigh.. seems like MILs are pretty stubborn people huh?

Gene,
Aiks, your MIL is interfering you disciplining Ryan? That’s really bad.. I’m so sorry for you. I would probably blow my top!

Hmom,
Oh my, your MIL was really not supportive and showing it with actions. Mine was only nagging me. If she threw away my milk, I probably would have had a fight with her. Yikes!

Domestic Rat,
Blech!!

By: domestic rat

domestic rat — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 15:33:00 +0000

The one thing I cannot tolerate is when I saw MM’s grandma spooning the porridge into her mouth, moved the contents about, and then spit them out and fed to her great grand daughter. I was errrr… on the verge of puking!!!!

By: HMom

HMom — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 09:30:00 +0000

Most MILs dont seem to support breastfeeding. Mine used to throw away my espressed breast milk from the fridge and give formula instead. THat was such a heartbreaking moment for me. Anyway,I was grateful for her help when I first went back to work after Harvynna was born

By: Simple American

Simple American — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 02:28:00 +0000

And in the eyes of God you are correct. So I applaud you.

By: Gene Lim

Gene Lim — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 01:04:00 +0000

tell me abt it! hhehhe..lucky u that u r not staying with ur mil…

i am starting to have problems with her now… whenever i punish Ryan (he has to sit on his notty chair) , she will rite away carry him up…
without letting Ryan understand what happened and what wrong he has done..

man i am soo frustrated….

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 14:53:00 +0000

I’ve already got lotsa experience with MIL vs my way of bringing up Keith. I’d rather take care of Keith myself coz’ it’s so heartache at times seeing how she take care of Keith her way. Eventhough how much I’ve told her or advice her, she’ll still do her way. SOmetimes, my maid even get so fed up and complaint to me.

By: Helen

Helen — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 12:21:00 +0000

Like many other comments before me, I agree that by definition of helping, the person should ‘help’ in areas where they are required. Maybe it would help if your hubby or you just let your MIL know what you would like her to help with. 🙂

Of course, you are the Queen of your household and your rule stands. lol

By: geetha

geetha — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 10:39:00 +0000

I guess Zara was used to your way and felt restricted with MIL’s ways.. Pity MILs.. but she has to give in coz’ generation changes and kids are not the same as those days 🙂

It’s easier that you are the main caregiver of Zara. So, it’s your rule that stands.. I can say much when at in-laws coz they would butt in and change my rules! So, I rather (only) handle my kids at home.. *sigh*

By: Adrian & Alvan

Adrian & Alvan — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 10:34:00 +0000

Emm..I noticed that most eldest like to compared the way their rising up children with their DIL hor, (I said most not all), no matter how they will have others opinion, just take it as advices. My Mom also have different opinion with me too, sometimes we do argued.
I not stay with MIL and she seldom come and visit us also, and from the very 1st day that she know that I have my way, so she wont make sound of what I do cos she know that if I had decided I wont change mah.
No matter what, they just sayang our kids, right.