Comments on: Carrot And Stick

By: Zara's Mama

Zara's Mama — Mon, 27 Mar 2006 15:54:00 +0000

Allyfeel,
Normally after disciplining her, she’ll be good for a while, until the next time. But I’ll normally remind her.. “Remember last time you did this, what did mummy do?” She’ll then say, “Beat!” and then will not do it. 😛

Twin,
Beating out of anger is something we sometimes do.. but we always regret after that. 🙁 We are only human.

Geetha,
that’s right, we create a balance.

Glasgow Mum,
Don’t get us wrong. Our spanking is normally not very hard. It’s just enough for them to feel a bit of pain, to know the concequences of them being naughty.
We use other methods, like naughty corners, taking away their favourite things too.
And we also give a lot of praisings, loves, and encouragement.
The important thing is to creat a balance.
In your society, no spanking at all?

Irene,
Hmm.. I should try that out too..

By: Irene

Irene — Sun, 26 Mar 2006 16:30:00 +0000

Since I’m the disciplinarian at home, it’s the voice of thunder that scares her.

When Hailey gets mad, she likes to swing her arms and actually hit at whoever made her mad. So, I have to pin her arms down, then stare her down. Surprisingly, this has work.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 24 Mar 2006 20:17:00 +0000

Hello All …. a very interesting discussion going here. Is it very common for Malaysian mums to hit/slap their kids?
Glasgow Mum

By: geetha

geetha — Fri, 24 Mar 2006 13:12:00 +0000

Sure beat wan.. but it depends, how naughty he was. Otherwise, my loud, stern voice is suffice 😉

I haven’t tried the naughty corner yet.. don’t know whether he will understand or not. But since Zara understand, then I think Champion should too 😛

But then again.. we shower them with lots of praise, love and affection.. their precious rewards..

By: Twin

Twin — Fri, 24 Mar 2006 13:00:00 +0000

yeah when warnings doesn’t work … i do beat out of anger and I think its bad and I regret it after that. I read its not a good way of disciplining. I use the ‘notti corner’ too. And it always work. But be warned not to overuse it. 🙂

By: Allyfeel

Allyfeel — Fri, 24 Mar 2006 11:45:00 +0000

Hey I like how the naughty corner works.
I might want to try it.

I beat his palm sometimes when he is naughty and tell him what he did wrong and demand an apology. He listens, won’t repeat the same thing in that day but might do it again the next day. *shake head* I also believe in praise and encouragement to boost his confidence.

By: Zara's Mama

Zara's Mama — Fri, 24 Mar 2006 00:02:00 +0000

Thank you all for sharing your method of diciplining your child.. And to those who do not have children but shared what they know.

Hmm.. I think to achieve a balance is important. And yes, I do explain to her why I beat her or punish her, don’t just do it and leave her clueless.

It pains me to beat her, and I regret especially for those occasions where I spanked her because I was stressed out and quick to get annoyed, and she misbehaved small time(which on other days when I’m in a better mood, I would have tolerated and spend sometime explaining to her).

And yes, I love this photo of Zara a lot, especially it brought out colour of her eyes.. As for the lips.. err, it’s my first time hearing she has sexy lips.

Thanks to those who visited my blog for the first time, I’ll try to return the favour.

And Helen, remember, this is a blog about Zara, nothing 18SX ler.

By: e*ember

e*ember — Thu, 23 Mar 2006 23:04:00 +0000

I think I punish more than I reward. But I do give praises generously. Yes, I believe in disciplining of the kids, and in some extreme naughty cases, I will hit on the palm or the thigh.

The “naughty corner” or time-out place didn’t quite work for my kids.

By: The Diva

The Diva — Thu, 23 Mar 2006 22:17:00 +0000

We have a “naughty play pen” – actually more like a little jail lah. So far, Ophelia has only been put inside there by her daddy a few times. I haven’t found her so naughty that I needed to put here there. Anyway, she’s learnt how to climb in and out of the play pen on her own nowadays. The “naughty play pen” is “taken over by events”.

By: Fannie

Fannie — Thu, 23 Mar 2006 21:56:00 +0000

I do punish Ethyl once in a while when she’s too much for me to handle.

I do spank her thigh or hit her palm when she’s touching this that she shouldn’t or she’s too stubborn.

But of course, love, encouragement and hugs are still the majority…It is how we handle the kids that is important, we don’t punish them blindly or too harshly.

I do explain to her whenever I discipline her.