Visa Application
Daddy and I hardly go out alone, we always bring the girls everywhere we went. In a year, we probably go out for dinner 5 or 6 times without them. The girls, who are hardly left at home without us, had to be informed in advance, it’s kind of like having to apply a going out Visa from them.
Over the weekend, we wanted to go out for dinner alone (first for this year), so here is the Visa Application process.
I asked, Zaria, “Zaria, mummy and daddy go out for dinner tonight, you and jiejie stay at home with aunty ok?”
She replied, “Ok mum.” That was easy.
Zara was upset, and she said “No. Why must you go out without your children?”
I had to explain to her, parents have sometimes spend time alone, etc etc, and I’m not really asking her for permission, but rather giving her advance notice we’ll be going out.
“You think leaving your children behind and locking them up in the house and then you go out is a nice thing to do is it?” o.O”
I have to tell her we’re not locking them up, they are free to roam about, choose what they want to do in the house, and we’re just going out for dinner, not leaving them that long.
“You have all the bad things (thoughts) in your head, that’s why you said this.”
o.O”
(She’s very capable of attacking you using words.)
When I told her that’s not something nice to say, tears was welling up in her eyes, and she said, “I want you to forever stay with me.”
“But I’m staying with you forever, it’s just that Daddy and mummy had to go out for a few hours for dinner to spend time alone, then we’ll be back. You can have your favourite spagetti for dinner, and then you can watch a show after dinner, and then we’ll be back already.”
“What time are you coming back?”
“By ten.”
She thought for a while, and then, Visa approved!
Oh, this is not all, we had another check point. When I told Jelly, our maid, we would be leaving the children with her for a couple of hours while we went out to have dinner, she put on her black face.
Daddy was so annoyed, he gave her a lecture, “What do you expect? We cannot get you to take care of the children when we go out for dinner is it? How often do we go out without them? Just this one time you want to give me black face?”
See, not easy huh? To just want to go ‘pak toh’ (Cantonese : dating). After all these, when we reached the restaurant, Daddy said, “I really don’t like to let the girls miss out on such things.”
Aiyo.. like I’m the bad one, who likes to go out without them, and do not feel bad about it.
Yeah I only have lunch time with my hubby, no dinner time alone. I wonder what happen if I tell my kids this. Hehehehe….
Wah visa app also must go thru maid. Next time better give lecture to maid after you come back from dinner.
Aiyoo, I think maybe Jelly is too pampered coz you guys always bring the girls with you. For me, sometimes I do have to go out without them (like for dinner with colleagues or sometimes with friends), my hubs needless to say will not be helping with the kids. So Supini will take care of them la…
wah…pity pity…
i guess Z&Z are daddy’s girl.
hehehe… your visa application process very tedious hoh… but the worst part is with the maid! no need to put through application with her, just ‘tell’ her to approve it.. muahaha… I like the way Zara says she wants you both to be with her forever..
he hehhhh…… your post really had me smiling! when I saw visa application, I thought it was the real one.
And Zara is really very good at playing the guilt trump card! 🙂
it is a challenge…
so far we never go out dinner without the kids…either one of us will be the kids…
hmmmm…i wonder will our visa be approved easily or not…
Our kids are never home alone with our maid tho only because when the 2 of them r together, it’s chaotic at home….and then we bring them out, grumble when they misbehave and sulk at why can’t they just stay home with the maid. It’s a vicious cycle.
perhaps u 2 take time off day time while girls are in school, then u won’t feel so guilty. i know i’m not when i do this but if at nites, i probably would feel guilty (havent had chance yet for dinners alone with hubby).
interesting that your maid show black face coz i thot she was a good maid all this while. good thing your hubs told her off though.
At least u get to go ‘pak thor’ with hubby, altho the visa app seems a bit tedious. hehehe Hubby n I hv not been out together since the birth of my girl.
Haha..I am amazed with Zara’s response, I think her thought is quite mature.
hahaha…Zara is worse than immigration officer LOL. You should tell her mah, that you need to go out alone with him so that you can have better relationship and no need to get a new BF 😛
you should do it more often, then your visa app process will become easier each time :p my hubby & i do go out for dinner together – our marriage time – and now, it’s easier cos we inform them in advance. previously, the boys would stand at the door and cry :p
i enjoyed reading this post very much so, thanks for sharing.
Zara sure is a drama queen hoh … her lines are like what we can normally get in those drama series … Just when you get hurt by her words, she said something that made you lum forever …
such beautiful girls you have … and a wonderful family too. i always have this warm fuzzy feeling whenever i visit your blog …
Zara is so quick with her response. She is going to be a tough girl that wont get bully.
Aiyo, we have not pah toh for years… some more with no maid, kids tag along wherever we go
yeah, it’s really hard to enjoy yr ‘pak tor’ moment, I don’t even have my own sweet time for bathing.
Zara is really mature beyond her age. And why need the maid to approve your visa leh? You are her boss, after all.
Mmm…I’d go with your hubby on this one. I don’t like maids (seen one too many). Hubby is like that too. He’d rather we have a noisy and tiring holiday together than worry about our kids alone at home. Especially with someone who is unwiling to be at home with them.
Thus, we agree that we’ll take leave to have our dates. Or sometimes we’re lucky to get a day on our own on public holidays, which not all companies observe. That way, the daycare still operates and we’re on our own on a non-weekend!
Don’t worrylah…it’ll get easier when they are bigger. They’d probably go “eww” then LOL
I say “white lie” to my kids, hahaha….so that i can go out and meet my hubby for dinner, this only happens once a week. Before i go out, i will make sure the kids and the maid have taken their dinner, and i will make sure the kitchen chores have done, so that the maid’s job solely focus on kids.
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